bondage
December 2007 
The Welcoming (Or Not) Of The Human
Posted on Nov 2nd, 2006
by 
David Jon
David Jon
Why would we not want to share Life with another being?
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I have been wondering again about being a Parent and how I received the Gift of Life because my Parents choose to have children... and allowed it to happen. I am specifically wondering if the choice not to have children is a breaking of Life's Trust? After all, might we not owe an obligation to give to Life the opportunity for a new form--which is what each of us has received?
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Of course, this is totally in keeping with the notion that Life Is A Gift. If we view Life as a Gift then we will want to share that Gift.
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It goes without saying that not everyone views Life as a Gift. Many millions of people probably view Life as a Trap.... Life as a Curse... Life as a form of Bondage.... in short, Life as anything but a Gift!!
Think about it---if you are given something precious and rare (and you are of a generous spirit or disposition) then you will want to share that with others. You will find a happiness and discover a joy in sharing the Gift. You will pass it on. You will pay it forward. You will allow Life to flow through you and into another as the Continuum of Life is extended from you, through you, as you, for you, and because of you.
You will give the Gift you have been given.
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Unless we perceive Life as a Gift I don't think we will feel like sharing Life with another being through the Parent-Child Matrix. If we are of an extreme position that regards Life as a Trap.... a a form of Bondage... as an Unconscious or Conscious Hell.... then clearly we will try to keep the pain and suffering to ourselves and not spread the disease.
It's kind of funny that we can be of a Loving Heart and keep the pain and the suffering to ourselves. After all, if we perceive Life as a Curse.... then only a Loving Heart would seek to have that Curse find its end in us and our death and passing.
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Could everyone be right? Both those who don't spread the Curse out of Love, along with those who share the GIft out of Love, do what they do because Spirit dictates they do so. That some of us live in such a way as to indicate the potential traps in Life.... the curses and the crimes... to me is a precious gift given to All who shall know Life. It's like a way of bringing to end certain genetic-lines that have maybe mutated in ways that will not be beneficial in the future. So their conscience dictates that they don't pass the evolutionary buck to another generation: that the buck stops with them.
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Yes, I believe you can love Life and adore Children so much that you refuse to allow the inheritance of genes that may prove detrimental. And what if there is something to that: What if there is some secret Intelligence whispering to the childless that they should be wary: that there is risk that the sins of the Fathers could be visited upon the unsuspecting child. So Love says.... "Do not spread the disease.... do not share the sickness.... be Christ-like and bear the suffering upon your own shoulders."
And for that you will be loved... when the not-giving too is a Gift.
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I have been wondering again about being a Parent and how I received the Gift of Life because my Parents choose to have children... and allowed it to happen. I am specifically wondering if the choice not to have children is a breaking of Life's Trust? After all, might we not owe an obligation to give to Life the opportunity for a new form--which is what each of us has received?
__________________________________________________
Of course, this is totally in keeping with the notion that Life Is A Gift. If we view Life as a Gift then we will want to share that Gift.
_________________________________________________
It goes without saying that not everyone views Life as a Gift. Many millions of people probably view Life as a Trap.... Life as a Curse... Life as a form of Bondage.... in short, Life as anything but a Gift!!
Think about it---if you are given something precious and rare (and you are of a generous spirit or disposition) then you will want to share that with others. You will find a happiness and discover a joy in sharing the Gift. You will pass it on. You will pay it forward. You will allow Life to flow through you and into another as the Continuum of Life is extended from you, through you, as you, for you, and because of you.
You will give the Gift you have been given.
_________________________________________________________
Unless we perceive Life as a Gift I don't think we will feel like sharing Life with another being through the Parent-Child Matrix. If we are of an extreme position that regards Life as a Trap.... a a form of Bondage... as an Unconscious or Conscious Hell.... then clearly we will try to keep the pain and suffering to ourselves and not spread the disease.
It's kind of funny that we can be of a Loving Heart and keep the pain and the suffering to ourselves. After all, if we perceive Life as a Curse.... then only a Loving Heart would seek to have that Curse find its end in us and our death and passing.
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Could everyone be right? Both those who don't spread the Curse out of Love, along with those who share the GIft out of Love, do what they do because Spirit dictates they do so. That some of us live in such a way as to indicate the potential traps in Life.... the curses and the crimes... to me is a precious gift given to All who shall know Life. It's like a way of bringing to end certain genetic-lines that have maybe mutated in ways that will not be beneficial in the future. So their conscience dictates that they don't pass the evolutionary buck to another generation: that the buck stops with them.
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Yes, I believe you can love Life and adore Children so much that you refuse to allow the inheritance of genes that may prove detrimental. And what if there is something to that: What if there is some secret Intelligence whispering to the childless that they should be wary: that there is risk that the sins of the Fathers could be visited upon the unsuspecting child. So Love says.... "Do not spread the disease.... do not share the sickness.... be Christ-like and bear the suffering upon your own shoulders."
And for that you will be loved... when the not-giving too is a Gift.
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Interesting… I’ve never thought about my choice to be childless in these terms. I guess I don’t think of life as a gift. I don’t think my parents looked at their decision to have kids in that way either. I think they wanted to raise children and enjoy family life mainly because that was how they wanted to live their lives. I don’t know for sure though. I’ll have to ask them about it. This goes back to the whole “self-centeredness” thing. I always bristle when someone suggests (as they often do) that it’s self-centered to not have kids. After the fact, once the child is born, it’s true that it would be hard to be self-centered and be a good parent. The question is, What’s the motivation to have a child in the first place? You’re the first, David Jon, I’ve heard talk about “giving the gift of life.” Most people seem to want something for themselves, i.e. the wonderful, deeply meaningful experience of being a parent. Life may be a gift, but who’s the gift for? It’s my feeling that the vast majority of humans are at a self-centered stage of personal development when they decide to procreate, and thus they look at the newborn child as a gift–for themselves. This is evident in the language most people use to describe the decision (i.e. “I want to have a baby” or “I want to be a father”). And like a child who gets bored with his Christmas toys by February, too many parents remain self-centered and leave kids feeling neglected, unwanted and unloved.
Of course, someone who decides to have children from a place of relative selflessness will look at and experience parenthood from a relatively selfless perspective. But then again, childlessness can also be viewed and experienced from a relatively selfless perspective. After all, there are millions of children (and adults) already in the world who could use some attention, so one need not create a new being in order to bestow gifts. And the ultimate gift, as I see it, is not life, but love. I could get my balls blown off in a minefield (ouch!) and still give love. And I can give it to anyone at anytime.
I don’t know, David Jon, what goes into the decision to create life, because I haven’t made that decision. But I have made the conscious decision (every time I put on a condom) to not create life, and I certainly don’t feel like I’m withholding a gift from anyone. The truth is, I’m not sure why I don’t want a child (for now, at least). That’s why I’m having this discussion with you. Thanks for that.
Hi Bob,
I appreciate you sharing these moments with me (and others I suspect who may also read them). It is really helpful for me to be able to hear another perspective on a matter that I feel has gone under-perspectivized–is that a word??
Like you suggest… I am exploring my own motivation in becoming a Parent (truth is, though, that it was all unplanned, as the little tyke fought through layers of birth control??). So here I am exploring a view of the world and a form and manner of experience that 'I' had never planned to have.
So I feel like I have this jewel in my hands Bob… and I am both awe-struck at it's beauty, even as I wonder about the nature of this jewel's existence.
And you… like a friend… are helpful in that inquiry into the Wonder-Of-It-All.
Cheers,
David Jon