communication
December 2007 
A Zaadz First??
Posted on Aug 28th, 2006
by 
David Jon
David Jon
Friends?? Well, let's say, are the people in your Zaadz Friends list all really your Friends? What does it mean to be a Friend?
My own personal definition based upon years of being both a friend to others as well as their being a friend to me leaves me with no sense that many of the people in my own Friends List are well.... anything close to be a Friend of Mine.
So what to do? How about eliminating Friends from your Friends List. I just did! Two peeps got axed today. I had to do it. They are both reknowned for mass mailings---you get them too, I know!--so I finally decided that they were only interested in spreading themselves thick over and into other people's lives.
Not here anymore!! And Lord does it feel good! Not because I get off on being an ass--well, maybe I get off on being an ass a little--so much as because I am valuing what a Friend means to me. So no more cheap Friends need apply. Don't ask me to be your friend along with a thousand other peeps. Don't make me part of your competition to see how many Friends you can stockpile, or how high you can climb on the list.
Here you earn friendship. It grows over time. It is developed through communication. Not a bunch of carbon-copies sent out to hundred or thousands at a time. That's not friendship. That's so fucking Corporate!!
Well, am I the first to remove a friend (or more properly speaking remove a person who was never a friend to begin with and had no intention of ever being so)? And what do you think/feel about this? Do you dare honour Real Friendship by calling the fake, superficial, counterfeit variety out for exactly what it is?
I dare you...
My own personal definition based upon years of being both a friend to others as well as their being a friend to me leaves me with no sense that many of the people in my own Friends List are well.... anything close to be a Friend of Mine.
So what to do? How about eliminating Friends from your Friends List. I just did! Two peeps got axed today. I had to do it. They are both reknowned for mass mailings---you get them too, I know!--so I finally decided that they were only interested in spreading themselves thick over and into other people's lives.
Not here anymore!! And Lord does it feel good! Not because I get off on being an ass--well, maybe I get off on being an ass a little--so much as because I am valuing what a Friend means to me. So no more cheap Friends need apply. Don't ask me to be your friend along with a thousand other peeps. Don't make me part of your competition to see how many Friends you can stockpile, or how high you can climb on the list.
Here you earn friendship. It grows over time. It is developed through communication. Not a bunch of carbon-copies sent out to hundred or thousands at a time. That's not friendship. That's so fucking Corporate!!
Well, am I the first to remove a friend (or more properly speaking remove a person who was never a friend to begin with and had no intention of ever being so)? And what do you think/feel about this? Do you dare honour Real Friendship by calling the fake, superficial, counterfeit variety out for exactly what it is?
I dare you...
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yep, i”ve done that too.
not quite sure what satisfaction is gotten from having 988 'friends' …..it's not for me.
I found your post through a post on my partner's zaadz blog – and you're definitely not the first! I've done all of these:
–declined offers of friendship from people who were just collecting friends for the numbers
–deleted friends I “acquired” but had no connection with
–deleted friends who, over time, exhibited behaviors or attitudes that felt toxic to me – I didn't want to see their faces every time I went to my profile page
I started a pod on healthy boundaries, and I think consciously choosing our friends, both in the world and in cyberspace, is a good thing
Well Hello,
That's cool Kate and Kira. Looks to me like I am just following a couple of trail-blazers here!! ;o )
I'm in good company then, eh? ; o)
I want thank you both for taking the time to stop-by and share.
Genuinely,
David Jon
that rocks. :)
what other LOVE can I have for my friend than being prepared to give my life for my friend - must surely be as appropriate @zaadz as ANYWHERE else - albeit recognising the fact that for the first TIME in the history of HOMO SAPIENS on earth - a man named Brian has provided the potential to establish a mechanism to TRANSCEND & INCLUDE ALL 6.5 billion on our journey of understanding.
Michael..agree with you. Despite all possible diferences that exist. zaadz is in its infancy……I see no other social network that has even this potential. Zaadz enables in empwering people. That is course not already From empowering people to changing systems as Duri et al. explain here. its a beginning jouney. And its a global company too. Starting in USA, yes.
It focuses on entrepreneurial spirit , perspectives and blue prints too. And this merger of conciousness and emerging conscious capitalism is attractive for me too. And its integration of online and face to face communication in the long run.
The term “friend” is simply an invitation for me. Everybody can shape the special meaning of this word in a personal way.
I enjoy this very beginning very much!
Albert